that relative with too many plants
and music your parents don’t listen to
who is rarely at the family gatherings
but always sends you love on your birthday

that relative that they call “different” or “troubled”
with a multi-colored flag and a weird, earthy smell at their house
who seems to speak in fortune cookie, declaring
it takes courage to be yourself and 
you can always come to me when you’re scared

that relative with eclectic hobbies
like collaging and beadwork and making jambalaya 
who has pets that live indoors but
caretakes the creatures who live in the trees

i find that i am accidentally that estranged, weird aunt
because i was also that observant, curious, isolated kid
who needed a relative like me, a model to show
that you can be who you are someday and still survive it