Arrangements
It’s a rough thing, losing your parents.
Lots going on.
Emails. Texts. Phone calls.
Siblings asking why.
Discussions of the will.
Memories, good and bad. Often simultaneous.
Tears of grief mixed with joy that the suffering is over.
Childhood home drive-bys, someone else’s family there now.
Old recipes since changed, but still reminiscent.
Mannerisms inadvertently inherited, stirring recollection.
Learning to be alone in the world.
Jumping at the doorbell, thinking for a second it might be them.
Going to work, no one knows.
All that, plus the fact they’re not actually dead.
Only dead to me.
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The last two lines shift everything, David. Effective gut punch poem!
Thanks, Bud. Definitely the reaction I was aiming for
Good heavens, that ending! Messed with my head.
Yes! The goal was a sixth sense style reveal. Glad you felt that.
Great ending! Well done.
Thanks, Linda!
rich title
Glad you liked it, Gaby
You took us through the many steps of loss and grief in great detail, and then – the ending. Poignant and powerful.
Thank you, Virginia. It really is a grieving process
Wow, that turn at the end!
Thanks, Pam.
Heartbreaking. I wish I could remember the exact quotation but it essentially spoke to the pain of losing someone you love yet they are still alive. I think this is relateable for many of us even beyond parent-adult child estrangement. Thank you for this poem.
It certainly is a unique pain, and one chosen at that.
Effective and thought-provoking poem, David!