Ginger
As everybody knows, no one with red hair can ever truly be said to be handsome.
— Susanna Clarke, Jonathan Strange and Mr Norrell
My hair was the color of carrots,
which combined with my freckles
& milky white skin that burned
like a vampire’s on contact with the sun,
marked me as the enemy on the playground.
I’d rather be dead than red on the head!
To point out that my hair was orange,
actually, only made things worse.
It took me a while to notice that redhead girls
got a free ride. They were celebrated
as little firecrackers, or adorably zany
like Lucille Ball. As the only redhead boy
in my class, I was the changeling, devil, freak.
Even my daddy joked that my real father
was the milkman. I never laughed at that.
After a few years of cute Richie Cunningham
& bonny Prince Harry, conditions improved
for my burning-bush brethren. The word ginger,
with its connotations of healing & deliciousness,
entered the language like a balm, coaxing
the haters to hate a little less. But by then
it was too late for me, my hair gone gray.
Paradigm shifts are boats I always miss.
At least now I can look at photos of myself as a boy
& and think maybe I wasn’t so ugly, after all.
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poem ends on such sweet and endearing belatedness
Thanks Gaby!
This poem is a lovely journey, Kevin. Your descriptions from childhood are so vivid – the vampire, firecrackers, etc.
Thanks Nancy!
Love this Kevin! My grandson Joey has red hair and fair skin and hates when people talk about his hair!
Thanks Linda! Tell your grandson to hang in there.
Love the movement from red (pain) to ginger (healing) and
your descriptions and hints of humor, even when hard.
And, of course you didn’t laugh! :
Even my daddy joked that my real father
was the milkman. I never laughed at that.
great sounds here and community:
burning-bush brethren.
Thanks, Pam! Daddy only told that joke a few times before he could see that it hurt me, then stopped.
kids are so cruel – if not hair color it’s something else! it’s so comforting to be able to hug our childhood selves and know that we were indeed special. lovely poem.
Thanks so much!
Love the poem title and how you take us on a journey, and how the poem mixes sadness with humor. I got a kick out of “burning-bush brethren.”
Thanks Karen!
Oh, Kevin! You need to get on TikTok and search “gingas”- find the movement. It has been so healing!
Will do!
Very raw and honest, even where “controlled.” The raw honesty comes through.
And you are SO right about that shift. Conan and Sheeran and now for some it is mainstream affection.
Thanks Joseph! Ed Sheeran is a little leprechaun, ain’t he?
I agree with Pam’s comments. Great poem. “Paradigm shifts are boats I always miss” is so true for many of us. For what it’s worth, grayhairs rule!
Thanks Rosemarie! I’m hoping my hair will go snow white one of these days. I’d love that.
So Good !
Love the ending
And this shrug gets us ready for the wisdom of reparenting that child.
“Paradigm shifts are boats I always miss.”
Maybe ya didn’t miss them all friend.
Ha! Maybe so, Coleman. I can think of at least one that shifted in my favor while it still mattered. I should be more grateful.
Richie Cunningham comes through for gingers! (Who would have thought it?) Very interesting gender distinctions. Spot on there. You are our very own poetic ginger!
Thanks Sylvia! I’m always surprised at how many women (including Lucille Ball) dye their hair red, as if it’s a GOOD thing 😏
I love what Sylvia said about your “poetic ginger.” This a classic Kevin poem full of regret but with a dash of hope and forgiveness.
Thanks Linda! You do know Manny’s going to try and make us eat sushi, right? That’s going to be poem fodder for sure. 😏
What a deft exploration of how language, pop culture, and time conspire to rewrite the meaning of something as fundamental as hair color. The poem’s wit and candor—especially in lines like “I’d rather be dead than red on the head!” and “Paradigm shifts are boats I always miss”—give it both levity and resonance. You turn a playground trauma into a meditation on shifting identity. Bravo.
Thanks Dana!
I love the mix between humor and tenderness here: these lines are so effective: “The word ginger,/with its connotations of healing & deliciousness,/entered the language like a balm”
Thanks Shaun! A lot of kids had it worse than I did for sure.
Wonderful closure at the end! You conveyed precisely what you felt as a child. Thank you so much for sharing this lovely poem.
Thanks E.E.!