My Father’s Mother
I’m thinking today of my grandmother
a strong country woman, schooled
in hard work, grief, and superstition.
She hummed old hymns as she rolled dough,
punched out biscuits, and swept the family store’s
black-oiled floors with scattered salt at closing time.
In a cotton dress, she weeded her flower beds
until the slate black ground framed
purple iris, red canna, and four o’clocks
that bloomed on time.
in a funeral procession,
or sweep the walk after dark,
and how to heal warts by moonlight
My father was her only son ‐
two small stones
mark the graves of brothers
he never knew.
She taught me about death and grief
when I was a teen by starting most
sentences with “When I am gone,”
I heard those words for twenty years
before she lay dying
By then my tears had all been shed‐
leaving a small stone sitting in my heart
to mark their place
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This poem breaks my heart in the best possible way and I wish I could have write a tribute to my father’s mother half as good.
Thanks so much, Deanna. I struggle writing about her. I was afraid this came off as too prosey.
Beautiful tribute.
Love:
hummed old hymns
punched out biscuits
black-oiled floors with scattered salt
Thank you, Pam!
So many gorgeous details: the black-oiled floor and the turn of “I heard those words for twenty years/before she lay dying”
Thank you, Shaun!
Wow! Visceral. This poem shows us your grandmother so beautifully— and shows us her significant impact on you. That last image “a small stone . . . that mark their place” — wonderful. Wonderful tribute.
Thank you, Michele. Your comment is appreciated more than you can know. She was a very complicated and influential woman in my life.
So touching a tribute, Rosemarie. By the time I got to the end, I realized I’d been picturing my daddy’s grandma, who raised him, and also me for a while. I could see her doing these very things… also stirring a bubbling pot of oats on a school morning. I don’t recall her sprinkling salt on the floor, but I’ve heard it’ll kill bedbugs if left there a couple weeks.
Gonna read your poem once more before I turn out the light.
Wonderful specificity throughout this poem. I love the folk tradition references. The memorial of stones balances the spiritual with the material. Again, every word pays its rent to reside in your poem. Thank you for sharing this!