CW: sexual assault
One of my sisters
shared a meme:
”If you’re happy to be alive
thank your father;
your mother probably wasn’t in the mood.”
Which is funny
if rape is funny
(which it isn’t).
But she’s a different generation
she’s from his first marriage
the marriage, he eventually told me
when he’d been diagnosed
and knew his days were numbered,
“She didn’t like to fuck.”
Dad died with four children by his side,
three from his first marriage,
crying as his body seized and gasped
for its last breath.
The next day was rough.
His oldest son was angry,
and his oldest daughters were shaken.
I’d never known
feelings of being rejected
they’d all felt
So my sister shared a meme
and I immediately assumed
she didn’t realize
of the joke.
But then I thought back to dad
and the day after he died
and how, during his last year, he opened up
about the affairs.
And I wonder, what didn’t he say?
What if my sister understood
the hidden violence behind it all,
but shared it anyway?
4 thoughts on "Father’s Day"
Leave a Reply
You must be logged in to post a comment.
Thank you for exploring this dark and sensitive subject. I am grateful to people like you who are willing to ask these difficult questions.
Bronson — Thank you for your willingness to share and tackle such a difficult topic. The last three lines — “What if my sister understood the implications…” really pulled this piece together. I read these lines over and over. So powerful!
It’s good (and courageous) on Father’s Day to look under the surface. Thanks.
This hits close to home. Thank you.