I’M KEEPING MY MOTHER’S URN
I know it’s irrational to worry
about how cold she would be
underground. I place
her urn on our hearth, anyway,
cozy and warm. Hopefully, in her
new enlightened dimension,
she will actually appreciate
the gesture. But, I doubt it. I can
almost hear her complaining
that I don’t dust the urn enough;
that my husband and I stay up
too late when she’s trying to sleep;
that she hates our choice of TV shows:
police dramas instead of her favorite
Need I remind you, mom,
that I am probably the only person
She is the sore subject my siblings
don’t want to bring up anymore. Good
riddance is the general by-line. But,
grief still visits me. When I come across
a rare pair of clip-on earrings,
I want to buy them for mom. On
Mother’s Day, I feel the strangeness
of not giving her a call. It’s
the familiarity of her presence,
for three quarters of my life,
that I miss. Those memories hijack me,
and I weep, alone
11 thoughts on "I’M KEEPING MY MOTHER’S URN"
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This is a really powerful poem. They’re gone, and we miss even the annoying things about them. May we all get to set things right in that “enlightened dimension”.
So much family history here, and it is an easy read, a tribute to dysfunctional families everywhere.
Wonderful poem. I like the mother complaining you don’t dust her urn enough. Trying to finish unfinished business. Nice ending.
Kathleen – You drive us through so many emotions here – sadness, humor, regret . . .
Your choice of specific details makes all your work so relatable. Beautiful!
Oh goodness Kathleen. I really feel this and want to give you a hug.
I love the dark humor of this poem.
The last line really gets me. Emotional and effective.
You have covered so much of a disfunction we don’t like, can’t change and have to accept. Lonely,too. The siblings line hits home.
such good writing.
Grief is never easy and you have really captured this.
I love this poem. I feel this poem.
I always look forward to reading your work.
Kathleen — I hope that someday I’ll be able to write of the mother-daughter relationship with your caring and elegance.
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